Lesbians Raising Children

The Gayby-boom. 
Lesbians with children from prior marriages. 
Lesbians becoming pregnant - either the old fashioned way or through artificial insemination. 
Some use sperm donated by friends, some go to a fertility clinic willing to work with them. No matter what the circumstances of giving birth, we mothers are all hit with the same concerns at one time or another.

HOW WILL MY BEING A LESBIAN AFFECT MY CHILD?
We have all heard horror stories -- though interestingly enough, most often not from other lesbian mothers!
Children who are relentlessly teased by other students because their mother is a lesbian. Children facing accusations by their peers that since their mothers are lesbians, they will grow up to be fags or dykes - depending on the gender of the children.

We are told that children of lesbians (and gay men also), grow up lonely, depressed, excluded from normal childhood activities because they wouldn't let poor Rudolph, play in any reindeer games.

As the parent children born prior to my coming out to the world, I admit I used to face those same fears. The difference is that I have not been willing to accept these horror stories as a prediction of my Childrens experiences. 
Perhaps it is because we live in a suburban Queensland or something (though i tend to think this is not the case!), but I can assure you that our Children have not encountered any of the predicted problems. 
I have never been secretive about my relationship, and neither has our Children. In fact a lot of the Kids at school think it is cool that our Kids have two mothers!!

I would describe our experience with the school administration as a positive one in terms of accepting mine and my Partners relationship. The teachers and heads of departments are for the most part warm and friendly, and those that aren't, we feel is more a part of their 'personalities' rather than our Family situation. Other parents happily allow their children to come to our house to play after school, or stay overnight on weekends. 
We have watched for signs of problems, talked to our kids about their experiences, but nothing has come up that's been problematic.

Our two eldest Children are out of the school system and in the workforce, and they too, have chosen to not 'hide' their Mothers and our relationship.
Neither have been taunted or in any way been made to feel 'uncomfortable' about their Family, and their Mothers relationship.

I think it is time that we stop allowing fear to control our lives as Parents...